Write It Sideways

Writing, Motherhood, and Self-Expectations

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About two weeks ago, I mentioned our twins would soon be born.

I’m so pleased to announce the arrival of our third son and our first daughter, who weighed in at about 5.5 pounds each. They are healthy, happy, and finally home from the hospital after a weeks’ stay.

I’m feeling well despite the busy days and sleepless nights of feedings and diaper changes. Still, even though I have plenty of help around me (my mom is visiting for a couple of months and my husband is working from home), I must admit I have little time at the moment for anything outside of caring for the twins and two older boys.

But that’s okay. It just means I need to re-evaluate my self-expectations for a while.

The need to adjust your expectations can sometimes feel oppressive, especially if you have no control over your circumstances. But, it can also feel empowering if you choose to make adjustments for your own good or the good of others.

In my case, re-evaluating self-expectations is not only good for me, it’s good for my family. I can’t argue with that.

My writing regime will be minimal for the next couple of months, but I’ve planned well in advance for this. Here’s what I’ll be up to while the twins are getting settled:

As you can see, I’ve set small, achievable writing goals, but my main goal at the moment is to spend quality time with my four beautiful children. I’m enjoying every minute.

Under what circumstances have you needed to adjust your self-expectations when it comes to writing?